We all get asked “are you okay?” by loved ones or friends, and we give stock answers like “I’m fine” and “Don’t worry about me, I’m good.” Are these answers truthful? For some people they are. Other people…not so much. It’s just a self-defense mechanism that has been learned from a lack of an emotionally supportive childhood.
Adults that were abused as children often have feelings of worthlessness, low self-esteem and long periods of depression. Often these fellow human-beings are prescribed medications that become a necessity, because quitting them leaves you with terrible withdrawal symptoms, which are worse than being on the medication. These “medicines” leave you apathetic with an empty feeling deep inside of you, that seems as though it will never be filled with anything, but sadness, rage, hopelessness and a poor image of self.
Many people abused as children, suffer many medical conditions during adulthood. Many contemplate and even plan suicide, often, if not a good part of the day. Abused Adult Children (AAC) are NOT more likely to abuse their own children, that is just a cruel theory invented by some dipshit with a fancy degree hanging on his wall.
The truth you ask? Well, it is individual and different for everyone. Some people NEVER recover from the abuse. I know that AACs are more likely to have pain, especially in the gastrointestinal and pelvic areas. I know these individuals are prone to isolation and a total lack of self-esteem. Many times these individuals feel it is always their fault, no matter the situation. These adults, abused as children, always make apologies for their actions. Many have issues with intimacy and even sexual dysfunction over the abuse.
Men, especially, don’t usually tell about their abuse as a child, especially if it was sexual abuse. Men in the American culture always have been taught to be stoic…seldom do they speak of past abuse or they simply have blacked it out. Men feel it is something that shouldn’t be spoken of, or any emotion given to it… after all, that might be considered weakness, and in America, men shouldn’t be weak, right?
PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is very common in this classification of person. PTSD results in anxiety, panic attacks and long bouts of depression. Many give up trying to speak of it because it would indicate weakness in their eyes. PTSD is a sad condition. The hyper-startle response or lack of any startle response. PTSD sufferers may have flashbacks, obsessive thoughts and violent nightmares. These nightmares may include pieces of the abuse that occurred as a child. 22 veterans commit suicide EVERY day in America. Think about it, that’s almost 1 veteran, every hour, every day, every year!
If you feel you have depression, please seek medical help. If you feel you suffer from PTSD from past traumatic experiences, please seek help.
I am not selling anything or giving medical advice. I am a registered nurse and a veteran of Desert Storm, having served 8 years and honorably discharged. I know of a natural medicine that is so more effective at treating PTSD, anxiety and depression but the federal government and many states make it a crime to pursue a life of happiness. Please support all with PTSD, including our war heroes and sign my petition for the compassionate use of medicinal cannabis in treating these disorders. Just click the button below.
Article written by Emery Myers